What’s the best way for singles in the church to meet other Christians or their future spouse?
Is it the tried and true old school methods or is it the new technology driven methods? Is it meeting on a church of Christ dating site or is it getting introduced someone by your Aunt Mildred? I know the millennial will definitely say technology baby!!
But, let’s have a look.
I’m probably old enough to be your father…
This may be the case for many of you. But, there are many Christians who are my age and older who are in the dating game. Nonetheless, the advice I’m giving is from the word, we all can learn from the Bible! Right!
We have to get a few things out in the open first my son or daughter. (Just joking)
Seriously, Here are a few items we must discuss.You only need to be in the dating game if you’re eligible to be dating. Why? Dating leads to more serious involvement and emotions between men and women that is very serious. You are not eligible if:
If you are married
If you are separated but still married
If you are not divorced according to the scriptures.
You need to date one man JESUS and that’s it. At least until your situation gets aligned with the word of God. Trust me, it’s not that bad living a Christ focused life. Actually, its a blessing. Talk about a fulfilling life, you can devote yourself to the Lord and his cause. It’s an honor. Ok, But everyone has their proper gift! I get that..(See the scripture below)
Here’s another point I have to stress. If you are in the Lords church and you’re eligible to be dating, you MUST date the opposite sex. God never intended for people of the same sex to be dating or married or involved as husband and wife. Romans 1:26-27.
26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.
God calls that sin. No matter how many laws man pass, it won’t make a wrong a right! AMEN!!
The Competition is Between:
the church of Christ dating sites
Old School Back in the Day Tactics
We will grade the competition in 10 areas:
1. Speed of meeting your date
2. Most choices
3. Sharing results with your friends
4. Easiest to communicate
5. Long Distance
7. Meeting your family
8. Better Quality Dates
9. More Fulfilling Relationship
10. Longest Lasting Relationship
First, I want to give you some information that may help you in your search for a companion that is please to the Lord. After doing on an search online for church of Christ dating sites, I noticed that there are not a whole lot of choices. I have included a few here for you to review. I’m not sure that the sites are actually sponsored by members of the Lord’s church so proceed with caution. I ran into a spam site as well. So, make sure you are careful.
I have included some simple precautions that may make the difference in you being hurt or even killed or staying safe. Please don’t take them lightly. Read through all of them.
The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.
Nick Tsinonis, co-founder of Scamalytics, which creates software designed to prevent scammers from targeting people on online dating sites, offered a range of advice as to how to stay safe while interacting with a prospective date online.
Information can be found here: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/10-ways-to-avoid-falling-victim-to-online-dating-predators-dangers-safety-a6915301.html
Here are a list of the church of Christ dating sites:
Before you engage in any form of dating, it is paramount to consider one thing – dating God first. According to Mark 12:30a (And thou shalt love the lord thy GOD with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind and with all thy strength), When you love God you will naturally try to do his will and seek him first (Matthew 6:33).
When you are looking for a partner, these things are to be kept in mind
Satan loves to have a firm hold on us through dating. Thus he tries to make sure that there is a shift of focus from God to our partners. Where we slowly drift and neglect God and his purpose for for us. Heb 10:25. If you feel you are placing your date above God – if your date feels the need to take Gods place in your life – flee!
Being yoked together with an unbeliever is dangerous (2 Corinthians 6: 14- 15).
Is there danger in having a secret relationship? Why do it in secret if there is no bad intent. It is advisable to walk with others, if possible let members or the minister or elders know so they can pray with you and continues to exhort you with the word of God.
Allow the holy spirit to direct and lead you through His word so that in all you do you strive to please God with your body spirit and mind. While dating be sure to keep 1Corinthians 6:15, 18 in mind. Be sure to operate under love and not lust. Love will keep Gods commandment but lust will kick against it. Yes there is a need to set limits in a relationship and this should be done mutually. Be guided by his Word!
No matter how well we think we have been raised, no matter how deep rooted we are in Christ, dating is one of the most critical aspects of our Christian lives. In fact, it is one of the testing grounds for unbalanced Christians – does that mean you should run away from it? Absolutely not!- It is a time to show your faith and how much love you have for Christ. In the course of dating, the Lord will teach us to hear his voice, we might eventually make mistakes but he is ever there to strengthen us, and more than anything his grace will lead us to the right path.
So while some persons may want to advice a traditional, old school dating arrangement, we are in the digital era and no one would say digitalisation has not affected them in some way. Of course, we all use gadgets, we’re a bunch of smart phone lovers (I know I am). In this day and age, it will not be totally advisable to get married to that young christian brother Aunt Mildred introduced you to. It is necessary to get to know and build love for that partner whom you will likely spend the rest of your days on earth with, serving the Lord together Ecclesiastics 9:9.
We want you to achieve a more fulfilling relationship that pleases Christ
BEWARE: Non Church of Christ Dating Sites!
Here are some single events. I’m not sure if they are teaching the truth of God’s word, they are sponsored by members of the Lord’s church. You will have to do your own DD (Due Diligence). Some of the dates my be pasted, but mark them on your calendar for this year!
The Crenshaw church of Christ website had really good information on their singles page, check it out below: